In this mental health topic we discuss how fear can be transformed into an asset leading to success.
Transforming Fear into Success
What are you afraid of? Are your worries preventing you from getting things accomplished in your life? Are they stopping you from taking that leap of faith?
Everyone has fears and many people let those fears stop them from doing things that may prove to be worthwhile, beneficial, or even lucrative. In my life coaching services, empowering clients to face their fears is one of the most enjoyable aspects of my work as I get to see powerful transformations as a result.
How can you turn your fear into a positive force in your life?
The first thing you need to understand is the fear itself. Why are you afraid?Oftentimes its about delving that little but deeper to get to the heart of the fear that makes all the difference, and as a mindset coach, this is something that I pay particular attention to as I know from experience that mindset is often the single most important ting a client needs to address.
Sometimes our fears can drive us to do great things and achieve massive success. Once you learn to conquer your fears, you can move past them, and it is understanding the causes of the fear- the thoughts, beliefs and attitudes are behind them- that opens the way for clients to move past them. The strength you gain from understanding the root causes of the fear can provide you with the momentum that drives you to future success.
‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’ was a book by Susan Jeffers that I read a very long time ago, and which taught the importance of courage. Simply, the only way to get over a fear is to confront it head on. Having this mindset plays an important role in your life. Fear will always be there, it’s what you do about it that matters, which includes getting to the bottom of it as well as facing it head on. The mental game is perhaps the most important one as it can empower you to take control and is one of the reasons I love my work as a mental coach.
If you have a fear of failure about a certain task, then the only thing to do is take it on and beat it. If you succeed, you’ll be encouraged to face another fear. This build character, courage and provides you with the promise of a better life and result.
Conversely, if you fail to conquer your fear the first time, regroup and try again. Each time you try, you’ll learn something new that you can use the next time around. Failure provides you with opportunities to relook at things from different perspectives until you figure out how to move forward and win.
You can also take your mind off your fears. Here are 3 good ways:
- Exercise. Physical activity boosts the immune system and strengthens the mind and body. When you exercise, your body releases endorphins that help promote a healthy mind and body. In the least, exercise can take your mind off your worries.
- Set goals. Take some time out of your day to set some specific, short term, and simple goals. The more you can complete, the more self-confidence you’ll build. Self-confidence is a powerful tool for removing fear.
- Talk about it. Fears can multiply when you bottle them up inside you. When you let fear build, it snowballs and gets bigger and bigger until it becomes terrifying to you. Talking about it helps relieve the pressure and gives you the opportunity to obtain honest feedback. This is where life coaching can become a powerful weapon in your armory as it helps you gain perspective and deeper within yourself so you can then come up with strategies to move forward with.
Worries are fears too!
Let go of the habit of worry. It’s a useless emotion that doesn’t help you move beyond rational fear and empower you to resolve your problems. In fact, worry falls into one of two categories:
- Things you can’t control. If you have no control over the outcome of a situation, why worry about it? You can’t change or control other people. What will happen, will happen.
Worrying won’t make a difference at all in the situation. It will only add to your fears and prevent you from taking care of the things you can control.
One POWERFUL question I often ask clients is this, “What can you do now that is in your control?” This often jots the client into thinking about the actions or steps they can take that they have control of which is what they need to do to start moving forward. This leads to the second point,
- Things you can control. If you can control the situation you are concerned about, then it’s simple: take action! If you’re doing everything you can, then you no longer have any need to worry.
Worry slows you down, makes you second guess yourself, and could even lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy of failure.
All you can do is focus on the things that you can do in the moment, the things which you have control of. This is the key to moving past worry.
In the end, facing your fears head on will give you more self-confidence, provide valuable experience, and make you stronger. You don’t have to be a slave to your fears. You can face your fears valiantly and triumphantly!
As a life coach, clients often come to me wanting to overcome certain problems, situations and challenges, or even to take opportunities presented to them, but fear is stopping or blocking them in some way. As a life coach, or more accurately a mindset coach, my role is to help the client understand what the cause of their fears are. Once they do then resolving them becomes so much easier which allows them to ultimately move forward. It is only by uncovering the fear and the root cause of it can we conquer it.
If you would like some life coaching to help you, please reach out. I can be contacted at https://adammedaglia.com/contact/
Author of WARRIOR: How I Defeated PTSD.
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